Saturday, December 31, 2011

It’s Almost a New Year

Another year has come and gone. I hope it was a great year for everyone.

I had my ups and downs. I lost my Dad but I gained a brother, we added to our family when Astro joined us, I started my blog and it took us 10 weeks of fighting with our mortgage broker to secure our mortgage. I have to admit that all in all 2011 has been a very stressful year; I’m looking forward to 2012 being a much better one.

I know many people make New Year’s resolutions and while I have in the past this year I’m not going to do anything concrete. I normally do all the things you’re supposed to do to ensure a goal is real and not just a dream. I usually write it out and break it down and make it measureable – you know the drill; and I’m usually pretty good with following through but this year I’m just going to go with the flow. I’m going to have a few things in the back of my mind and work easily and gently towards them.

In 2012 I’m going to get my blog address changed (sooner or later), I’m going to get our work site up and running (sooner than later), I’m going to get organized (gradually) and I’m going try to manage my stress a little better than I have in the past. And most importantly – I’m going to do all this while being more compassionate with myself.

I hope you’ll take some time to acknowledge what worked for you this year and what didn’t and make any changes you think will help you lead a happier more joyful life.

Happy New Year.... Let’s make 2012 the best year yet!

See you next year.
Lot's of love,

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

Christmas Traditions

Today is a day I usually look forward to. My shopping is done with the exception of a few little things and my groceries, so I would normally spend today wrapping all the gifts and getting ready for Christmas.

Here’s my tradition for the day - I brew myself a pot of tea, get all the wrapping paper and supplies ready near the kitchen table and then bring down all the gifts. I crank up the Christmas music and start with Shane (because he came first) then I move on to Bradley, then the dogs, everyone else and then lastly Jon. I drink my tea and enjoy the process; if by chance I’m still wrapping as dinner approaches I might add just a little nip of whisky to my tea....things get very creative then.

This year apparently I’ve stepped a little out of my box. Things were not as they usually are. My power was turned off this morning because our electrical panel was updated and our hydro service buried in the yard. I wrapped with no lights, no Christmas music and no tea.

Sometimes change comes whether we want it or not. I still enjoyed the day (even without the whisky!) but it wasn’t the same peaceful day I usually have while getting ready for Christmas. Maybe next year I will shake up my routine because I did something different this year – you never know I guess, but then again... I doubt it. J

Friday, December 16, 2011

Simple Christmas Pleasures

Yesterday I was lamenting about how I’m not yet in the mood for Christmas. It’s funny how sometimes a small thing is all I need to change my perception.

Wednesday afternoon I went shopping with a friend and while we both managed to pick up a few things we spent most of the afternoon chatting and dreaming about new shoes. Towards the end of the afternoon I was handed a Christmas card and it got me thinking how most of us (yes – me too) have given up on the time honoured tradition of giving cards this time of year.

I put the card in my bag and then the bag went into my trunk and my car ended up staying in Kanata overnight Wednesday. When I picked up my car and took my packages into the house I remembered the card. We already have a couple of Christmas cards kicking around the house; one from our mortgage broker that doesn’t even say Merry Christmas or the more generic Happy Holiday all it says is “thanks for your business, we appreciate your referrals.” (Note my sarcasm!) We have one from the sales guy we buy most of our construction materials from...again, not very meaningful.

The card from my girlfriend is lovely as is the sentiment written in it. In one moment I was cranky and overwhelmed and the next moment I was feeling grateful and appreciative for both friends and the season. All it took was a thoughtful friend and a Christmas card. It makes me think we should go back to the tradition of sending cards; they really are simple Christmas pleasures we can all enjoy.

Thursday, December 15, 2011

Christmas Panic

We are 10 days away from Christmas and I’m not nearly ready. I have 8 shopping days left to get almost everything. I don’t shop on Christmas Eve because it’s my birthday and I refuse to spend it in a shopping mall. With so few days left to prepare and so much left to do I’m nearing panic mode.

The only thing I have done so far is hang my wreath on the front door. The tree isn’t up, we have no decorations, and I haven’t even started baking yet. UG!!

My shopping isn’t going well for a few reasons – 1. I hate shopping, 2. I’m just not feeling festive so far this year, 3. Each year my boys get harder to shop for, and 4. The renos on our house seem to be taking all of my energy.

Up until recently I’ve been hoping for snow to kick me into gear but with the weather the way it’s been I’d be happy if it just got cold now. I need something – anything to get me moving before it’s too late....anyone have any suggestions?!

Don't you just love the mud? :-)

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

The New Year’s Coming!

Like so many of you I’m great at making New Year’s resolutions and maybe not as great as I’d like to be in keeping them.

With that in mind, I thought I would try something a little different this year. I’m going to read Debbie Ford’s book ‘The 21 day Consciousness Cleanse – A Breakthrough Program for Connecting with Your Soul’s Deepest Purpose” between now and January 1st.  I read it when it first came out in 2009. I enjoyed it and I thought I got a lot out of it then but for some reason it’s been calling out to me for the last couple of weeks to reread it; so I think now’s a great time to do that.

It’s about letting go of the past, embracing the present and working towards the future. I can’t think of a better way to ring in the New Year than opening myself up to this book and its lessons and being ready to start a new year with a truly fresh perspective.

As I read through the book I think it will be fun to talk about what I’m learning here, so if you’d like to join me in reading this insightful book I’d love you to. There are some great conversations waiting to happen and a wonderful New Year just around the corner that might be even better if we leave a few things back here in 2011.

You guys know how to get me...either Facebook, comments here or you can always email me at I’m looking forward to the next few weeks; I hope you can join me.

P.S. If you’d like to know more about Debbie Ford or her books you can find lots of               information

Tuesday, December 6, 2011


This weekend was a busy one for me. Jon and I went to see Prince on Saturday evening and then we all had Bradley’s football banquet on Sunday. While I enjoyed both evenings I’d really rather not have two things in one weekend.

I was complaining about it to an old friend I bumped into last week and she remarked how much I’ve changed over the years. She wanted to know where the “bar bunny” had gone; she regaled me with stories of years past and how much fun I used to be. To her the changes she sees aren’t good ones. I’ve lost my fun, my edge and who I was.

She’s right that I’ve changed over the years – of course I have; we all do. The changes aren’t the ones she’s observed though. Sure I used to go out a lot, but that doesn’t mean that Lynne was the authentic one; it only means that’s what I used to do. When I was 20 I didn’t know why I was always exhausted, I didn’t know why I was cranky, I didn’t know that I had an option to take things a little easier – In fact, I didn’t know much.

It’s taken me another twenty years to learn a thing or two about myself. I now know who I am and what makes me feel good. The changes aren’t that I’d rather take it easy the changes are that I now know what I prefer to do and that I’m not afraid to admit it to myself and others.

Her implication that I’m just getting old and boring pissed me off more than a little. The only thing my age has to do with it is the wisdom about myself and my life that growing older has given me. Change is amazing when you’re aligning yourself with your authenticity. If getting older means getting real then bring it on, I’m ready!