Tuesday, March 4, 2014

Living the Good Life

What does it mean to me to live a good life?

I've been actively asking and answering some version of this question for as long as I can remember.

The answer has certainly changed through the years. When I was a young woman I would have answered working hard and playing hard; or I would have said being healthy and working out made a good life. When my boys came along I would have answered being present with them as they grew. As they grew it became about getting the house and the car and all the “right” things.

Each time I watch THE VIDEO I'm amazed at all the different answers. I'm inspired by the differences in us and I'm reminded that there are as many different paths to a good life as there are people looking for one.

Now when I ask myself what it means to me to live a good life the answer feels simple. It means being true to who I know myself to be. It means living with intention. It means living in congruence with what's most important to me.

While the answer feels simple to me, I know it's not always simple or easy to live a good life. It takes work. It takes desire. It takes knowing what we need and want. And it takes courage - Some days it takes a lot of courage. But is it worth it?

I'm sitting in my old log house with no neighbours in sight, my wood stove is keeping me warm, my dogs are outside chasing the wild turkeys and my afternoon will be spent designing my vegetable gardens and working on my soon to be website – so all I can say is a resounding YES; it is definitely worth it!!

Monday, March 3, 2014

Can I ask you a question?

What does living a good life mean to you?

Watch this 4 MINUTE VIDEO and give yourself a moment or two and then answer the question for yourself.

It's simple really - or at least it should be.

I'll be talking about what living a good life means to me here tomorrow. In the mean time why not tell me what it means to you.

Monday, February 10, 2014

Another Confession and a Farm Tour

I have another confession to make. 

I’ve fallen in love again. 

And he’s even younger than Jon ;-)

He’s one of the sweetest guys I’ve met in a long time. He’s just like I like them...big and gentle. His name is Alibi and if I could, I’d bring him home with me.


Jon and I have been tossing the idea of farming around for a long time now and with that in mind friends of Jon’s (and new friends of mine) invited me over to see their farm and their new calves. I spent the most amazing time at Spring Valley Farm yesterday afternoon. The James family was gracious and patient with me and all my questions. What fun I had exploring the barns and taking pictures of the cutest wee animals ever. Who would have thought that calves would be snugly?

This wee guy was not quite 24 hours old!

Momma looking out for her new guy.

When I was a tiny girl I went to a farm with my grandfather and tried to bring home a new calf. Although I remember the day I didn’t remember why I wanted a calf so badly until yesterday. They really are the sweetest little things.

I can only assume they were all curious about me at the same time, lol!

Seriously...don't you just want to snuggle? 

I left there feeling as though I had made a few new friends (animal and human alike), and with enough information to keep me thinking for days about whether or not farming is right for me.

Thank you Mrs. James, Glen and Sheila...and faithful farm dog Ozzy.

Ozzy looking for some attention.

Thursday, February 6, 2014

An Occasional Feature - A Book Review

Many of you know how obsessed I am with reading and books. I'm not sure what's taken me so long to get to this but I've decided to review the occasional book. I read so many of them that I thought I'd share some that I love and some that I don't.

I read a lot of different books in a lot of different genres but I'll likely stick with self-help and books that may help us lead deeper, fuller and healthier lives. 

If you have any suggestions of books you'd like to see reviewed or books you think I might be interested in please leave me comment.

My first book is The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brene Brown, Ph.d., L.M.S.W.

I was introduced to Brene Brown a few years ago when one of her TED talks went viral. I was immediately drawn to her work and bought this book. I read it then and honestly I didn’t get very much out of it. It was recommended to me by one of my fellow coaching students again a few weeks before Christmas and I thought I’d give it another go.

I really like the way the author writes; it’s clear and concise, but I find it lacking in one way. I feel as though while she writes personally about herself the book would benefit from a few more personal stories of the people she interviewed.

On the whole I liked it and I’d recommend it to someone who’s new to Brene’s work. If you’re interested but not enough to read the book then I’d suggest watching her Ted talks; she’s a warm and engaging speaker and her talks will leave you feeling good about being yourself.

Here’s my favourite quote from the book:

“Caution: If you trade in your authenticity for safety, you may experience the following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, rage, blame, resentment and inexplicable grief.”

I’m giving this book 3.5 stars out of 5 (and her talks 5 out of 5).


I'd also love to hear your opinions on the books I've reviewed (if you've read them and you have something positive to add to the conversation). You don't have to agree with me, but you do have to be nice. 

Wednesday, January 29, 2014

Courage and Trust

And the day came when 
the risk to remain tight
in a bud was more
painful than the risk 
it took to blossom.
~ Anais Nin

Hello and welcome back!

I took the month of December off to fully participate in the holiday season and take a bit of a break. I didn’t expect my break to last quite this long. 

Once I got away from the blog I started to question why I was doing it. As some of you know I’m studying to become a life coach and as I’m working my way through the program we’re talking a lot about our niche markets and building a business and how not to put anything out into the world that doesn’t fit our message.

I've been struggling a bit a lot to define what exactly my message is. And that has turned into almost 2 months away from my blog.

Late last fall I decided that I would give myself a gift – a big one. I decided that I would devote the first 3 or 4 months of 2014 to doing some intense personal growth. This is a big gift for me because although personal growth is always a priority for me I don’t generally give myself permission to do it in such a big way.

With that in mind I signed up for How to Rule Your World From the Inside Out with Hiro Boga, and Circe’s Circle with Jamie Ridler. I’m also taking Mandala Magic with Julie Gibbons (by the way registration for that ends on Jan 31st).

I still don’t know what my message is – or how my business is going to serve but I miss being out here in the blogosphere and since the one consistent thing about my blog has been nothing more specific than what’s honestly going on in my life I decided why not just stick with that for now.

I’m finding a lot of resistance to this time I’ve dedicated to my own growth and it occurred to me yesterday that I’m not really enjoying the journey. I’ve been way too focused on the end. I’ve been focused only on what and how my business is going to be.

My words for 2014 are Courage and Trust; so I’m going to be brave and trust that clarity about my business (and about myself) will come in the right time and in the right way for me as I just continue to move forward and do my best to enjoy my journey.